Changing lives through foster care

Fourteen years ago, Carmela Davis became a foster mother for teenage girls. As an investigations specialist at the Miami-Dade Corrections & Rehabilitation Center (MDCR), she understands the importance of a good support group to set you on the right path in life.

“Children come into care through no fault of their own,” Davis said. “They are often angry, confused and display different types of anxiety behavior as they cope with the detachment of family.”

As a foster parent, Davis knew the challenges and difficulties this could bring as she welcomed teens into her home for care. “I listen, stay patient and try to be supportive,” she said. “Figuring out when and how best to intervene when it comes to interacting with teens is also a high priority.”

She appreciates how caring for teen girls teaches her a lot too. “They keep me up to date on the latest trends and keep me very active.”

“The laughs, the hugs and disputes teach us all that life itself is precious. Knowing that I could never replace their mom is one thing,” Davis said. “But knowing that I can love them just like a mom is another.”

Carmela has been with MDCR for five years. She was a sergeant at the Florida Department of Corrections for over 16 years and a probation officer for a short time. “I can say that my experience working with the public has taught me a lot,” Davis said. “However, I think my characteristics were inherited.” Davis was born the fourth child of four and witnessed her parents provide for her family and others in a loving and caring way.

“I believe teens deserve committed families before they launch into adulthood. This includes teaching independent living skills, advocating for educational opportunities, providing a welcoming spirit and setting realistic rules and expectations while navigating challenges.”

Davis encourages anyone who wants to make a difference to consider becoming a foster parent. “It is a joy to see our young kids gain confidence and develop the skills needed to become independent.”

Though caring for teens who have been removed from families due to abuse, abandonment or neglect may seem complicated, Davis sees it as an act of kindness. "We were not put on this earth to simply be good to ourselves; we were put here to simply do well to others.”

"To anyone who has thought of fostering, go for it,” Davis said.